Adam Thomas Wilder
April 28, 1994 ~ February 2, 2011
Adam Thomas Wilder, age 16, passed away peacefully Wednesday, February 02, 2011 surrounded by his loving family.
Born April 28, 1994, Adam is the son of Ronald Wilder and Cynthia Cliett Wilder. He is also survived by his maternal grandparents, Thomas "Tommy" Cliett and Anne Cliett and paternal grandparents, James Wilder and Eleanor Sawyer Wilder, all of Rocky Mount; sisters, Stephanie Wilder of the home and Tammy W. Harrell and husband Gary; and brother, Clay Wilder and wife Melanie, also of Rocky Mount. Adam will also be remembered by his three nephews, Caleb Gates Harrell, Gavin Langley Harrell, and Thomas Clayton Wilder; special niece, Kenleigh Renee Wilder; special friend, Devon Griffiths; and his loving dog, Maggie.
Adam was a sophomore at Community Christian School in Wilson and a member of the Future Farmers of America. He was also a member of Sunset Baptist Church. He had a quiet, gentle spirit that loved to spend time with his family and friends and loved hunting on the family farm. He will be truly missed by all who loved him.
The family will receive friends and relatives from 6:00pm to 9:00pm, Friday, February 04, 2011 at Sunset Baptist Church. A service to remember Adam will be held at 11:00am Saturday morning at the church with Rev. Steve Roberson officiating. Burial will follow at Rocky Mount Memorial Park.
Arrangements entrusted to Wheeler and Woodlief Funeral Home, 1130 N. Winstead Ave., Rocky Mount, NC. You may share your memories and send condolences to the family by visiting www.wheelerwoodlief.com.
Visitation
Sunset Avenue Baptist Church
3732 Sunset Avenue
Rocky Mount, NC 27804
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Friday 2/4, 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Service
Sunset Avenue Baptist Church
3732 Sunset Avenue
Rocky Mount, NC 27804
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Saturday 2/5, 11:00 am
Cemetery
Rocky Mount Memorial Park
4454 Dortches Blvd., Hwy 43
Rocky Mount, NC 27804
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I will always remember Adam as a favorite student and a kind and generous person who always put others before himself.
adam will be truly missed and around work when he would come in to work sometimes and to eat love you buddy BOOT
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I may be new at ccs as a kitchen helper, but it doesn’t take long to get to know the students that approach you on a daily basis. Sometimes you get familiar with them by what they eat (the same thing everyday) before you get their name. When I heard the sad news and trying to make sense of the suddeness of such a loss I did not want to think who the boy was. My co-worker said I knew who by what he always ordered. My heart sank as I thought of you standing there in your tan jacket, smiling. The diet Dr. Peppers and Big Texas rolls will always remind me of you and you’ll still be standing there in my mind. Adam, we all missyou and you are so loved by all at ccs and will never be forgotten. I will always pray for you and your family. God rest your soul and comfort your loved ones.
Although, I didnt know Adam, he sure seems like he was a wonderful and caring child; one with a sweet spirit. I went to school and had classes with his brother Clay Wilder at RMSH; therefore, I couldnt read of this loss and not send my condolences to the Wilder family. My wish is that God strengthens you during your time of bereavement.
Adam was a sweet boy and I will never forget the way he would walk around the ball field and talk to me. I asked him why he didn’t want to play ball with the rest of the students. He looked at me and said I had rather talk to you. Adam you had a sweet smile and I will always remember you! Go rest high on that mountain buddy with Jesus!
Your life runs a gamut. Some days are great, some days are just life and some days are really bad. For me, today is one of those really bad days. I lost a friend yesterday. His name was Adam. I suppose for some people, our relationship might seem strange. Adam is one of our neighbors kids. He was sixteen years old. I say was, because Adam died. Im sixty one. We were buddies though, without question. When my wife and I moved to Rocky Mount, North Carolina, five and one half years ago, the first person who came by to welcome us to our new home was Adam. I dont mind telling you, this is a tough town for new people. My wife and I both are military brats. Weve been married for over twenty years and have moved numerous times. Rocky Mount was a tough destination. Just damn hard to meet people, and no one was knocking on our door. No one, that is, but Adam. He came knocking the second day. He helped us move stuff and came to see us daily. Being totally honest, the biggest hook may have been our dog, Abbey. The two of them established a bond almost immediately. Abbey was a German Sheppard. I suppose that there is a mystique out there that the breed is ferocious. May be, but that certainly wasnt our experience with Ms. Abbey. Adam loved her, and it was mutual. A great pleasure for all of us was to walk Ms. Abbey. We even bought a leash that could fit over Adams wrist. Just to confirm how far down I was on the totem pole, Adam loved my wife Valerie, certainly more than me. Adam wasnt a shallow person, but I always felt that his love for Valerie was tempered by her ability to make World class cookies! Without doubt, she is a cookie maven. I cant tell you how many times I came home from work, lifting the cookie jar, and asking, Where are the cookies. Valerie would smile and answer, I gave them to Adam. A memory Ill never forget is Adam coming by one day after I had cut the grass. The greeting was so typical for Adam, Hey Mr. Bill, whats up Im a nerd, always have been. In the process of cutting the grass, I found a rubber snake that someone had thrown in the yard. It was small, but incredibly detailed. I placed it in one of the Leyland Cypress trees at the corner of my lot. I told Adam, Oh, not much. Right now, Im looking for a gotcha snake that I spotted while cutting grass. A gotcha snake Whats a gotcha snake Raising my eyebrows, I responded, Adam, I cant believe youve never heard of a gotcha snake. It is one of the most poisonous snakes known to man. Thats one of the reasons it is important to me to find it. It could bite Abbey, or one of the children who live in the neighborhood. Would you like to help me find it Definitely a pregnant pause before Adam responded, Sure. He and I went to the edge of the yard where the Cypress Trees were. I made exaggerated efforts to lift and examine different branches. Of course, I knew where I left it. Suddenly, I turned to Adam and said, Okay, Adam, be real careful. I think I see that darned old snake. With feigned care, I reached through the branches and grabbed the rubber snake. Quickly pulling it out and going out of my way to wiggle its rubber body, I screamed to Adam, Ive got it, Ive got it! Then turning, I pressed it to him. Its gotcha, its gotcha! Adam screamed. He then started to lift one foot and then the other, yelling heh, heh, heh, heh! Adam finally figured out that the snake wasnt real. He laughed so hard that we had to sit down on the ground. His comment said it all, Mr. Bill, thats just not right. Afterward, we went in and Valerie fixed us Neiman Marcus cookies and a glass of milk. The death of a child is unnatural. Ive sat at my desk today being totally unproductive. It has helped me tremendously to write this and once again thillnk about Adam and his wonderful smile. Abbey died three years ago, but there is no doubt in my mind that she is enthusiastically welcoming Adam to his new home. Bill Hogg – 3184 Abbey Road
There are no words to express my sorrow for your family. I love all of you and I share your tears. God Bless and give you peace.
Ron and Cindy, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Everyone here in my office want you to know that we are thinking about you and your family.
Adam was a dear student, and I feel so blessed to have taught him. What a tender heart he had! I will never forget him. To his family and closest friends I am praying peace and comfort for you all. Know that God promises we will all see him again in that day of great rejoicing.
ronald, mr james and mrs eleanor i am so sorry to hear of your loss i pray that god will truly shower your family with a peace and understanding that only he can supply. my prayers will be with you all as you go through this time in your life. may god bless you and be with you. bobby winslow
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Dearest Cindy, I cannot tell you how shocked I was when hearing this news. It must be very surreal for you. I want you to know how very much I have you, and your family in my heart and prayers. Just reading a little bit about Adam, and knowing you, I have no doubt he is a bright spirit. He carries your smiling face and goodness with him in that lovely light-filled place we all look forward to. You will see him again…I am sure you know that. That is his purpose now. Know that he lives, in the place you will be with him—together again. I send you strength to get through, acceptance, and healing. God bless you, Susan Smith Lewis
To the Wilder family we want to express our sincere sympathy for your loss. Your family is in our prayers at this time of lose may God up lift you. Gene&Patricia Pierce Davenport
Adam, I will miss you. Thanks for being my friend. Wright Moore
To the family of Adam, we were devastated to hear about adam from a neighbor. he never met a stranger just like Jim. He loved to come over to visit our labs, chewy and annie. he loved july 4th at lake gaston with the celebration and fireworks. his smiling face will be truly missed and our prayers are with you all. robin and jim perreault
Dear Wilder Family. My name is Darryl Mitchell. I shared my story with you on Friday night about my son, Seth, who passed away in 2002, also at Duke at 13 years old. I can truly say that I DO know what you are going through. Although we may all deal with grief differently, there is no greater grief than losing a child. Seth went to Raleigh Christian Academy and received the same type of support as you have from the CCS family. A foundation was formed after Seth’s passing, Seth Mitchell Foundation, that gives away an annual award and scholarship at the end of the year to a deserving student to attend CCS the next year. This has allowed Seth to live on, for you see Seth, like Adam, so much enjoyed being at school. Friends and family surround you now, which is comforting. However, I know in a few days, as those family and friends go back to their normal life, you will still be left with a huge hole in your life. I also lost an infant son ( 6 months) in 1996 and after some other personal issues, I have acquired a great skill in listening. Many times you don’t need advice, you just need someone to listen to you. If I can do that, please don’t hesitate to call or text me. Sometimes when people say, well he’s in a better place or he’s where we want to be, I know they mean well, but it sure doesn’t fill that hole in your heart. So again please know that there are those who really know how you feel and are praying for you. May God be your comfort. Darryl Mitchell (wife Melody) cell 919-215-9029
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To Mr. James and Mrs. Eleanor Wilder, Ronald & family………. Our prayers are with you all during this sad loss in your lives. Although we did not know Adam, reading all of the beautiful memorials to him have certainly made us feel as if we did in some small way. Thinking of you all and remembering you with lifted prayers. Mike and Betty Byrum of Hertford………….
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Cindy, Ron, Stephanie and family, A friend emailed me the news about Adam. Our hearts go out to you. We shared having both Margaret and Stephanie and Adam and Ben going through pregnancy and deliveries together – how special. I can’t begin to understand what you all must be going through. I just want to let you know that all of you will be in our thoughts and prayers and if you ever need me, just call. I know that God will give you the strength to get through each day…keep him close in your lives and cherish your memories until you’re together again. I’ll be in touch soon. Ellen, Tim, Margaret and Ben Davidson